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A trauma-informed reflection on the playing-card monarchy in Alice in Wonderland and how it teaches power, awakening, and the human nervous system.

There’s a kind of intuition that grows in the dark. Not the mystical kind, the survival kind. The kind that’s been trained to feel the temperature of a room before the door even closes.

Within The Humble Pie Philosophy, healing isn’t a transformation into someone better, wiser, calmer, or more enlightened. It isn’t self-improvement. It isn’t a performance of recovery. Healing, in this framework, is the slow, steady truth that rises when all the parts of you that once had to split off finally begin to recognize each other again.

There are moments that brand themselves into your memory, not because of what was said, but because of what wasn’t. Because you showed up vulnerable, needing care, and someone sat across from you unmoved.

Most of us were raised to think that good relationships are the ones with the least conflict. Quiet homes. Polite voices. No raised tones. No slammed doors. A performance of calm that often had nothing to do with actual safety. Many of us learned to equate “peace” with “don’t bring anything up.”

Discover why compatibility is less about personality and more about nervous system regulation. Learn how your body signals safety, danger, and emotional resonance long before your mind catches up.

Your body reads cues of safety and danger faster than your conscious mind. Learn how neuroception works and why your instincts often know the truth before you can explain it.

Feeling “too emotional” or completely numb isn’t a flaw. It’s your nervous system responding to history. Learn why intensity and numbness make sense and how your emotional patterns formed.

Shutting down isn’t a character flaw. It’s a nervous system survival strategy learned early in life. This article explains why you go blank, quiet, or disconnected under stress and how to understand this response with compassion.

Your nervous system doesn’t always know when the danger is over. This article explores why old survival strategies become habitual reactions, why they feel so strong, and how understanding these patterns can soften shame and support healing.

Many of us were told to “look for the helpers,” but what happens when no one ever came? This piece explores how growing up without emotional support shapes identity, self-blame, boundaries, and healing — and how adults can finally choose the helpers they never had.

A trauma-informed reflection on Pixar’s movie, Up, and how grief can look like rigidity, tunnel vision, and loyalty to the past. Why letting go isn’t betrayal, it’s returning to life.

Discover why true generosity is not a moral trait but a nervous system milestone. A trauma-informed essay on emotional scarcity, freeze response, healing, and how generosity begins in the nervous system

If you’re convincing, you’re not connecting. A trauma-informed look at overexplaining, curiosity, and why your truth doesn’t require translation for the right people.

Something happens. Maybe it’s a tone of voice. A look. A question that feels like an accusation. And before you can think, you’ve already reacted. You snap back. You leave the room. You go blank. You say “I’m sorry” before anyone even asks. And afterward, alone with yourself, you think: 'Why did I do that?' If you’ve ever asked yourself that question, especially in a moment you wish you could rewind or at least understand, this is for you. Because the answer isn’t in yo

Shame and guilt can function like an addiction, keeping us loyal, quiet, and small. A trauma-informed reflection on grief, conditioning, and emotional sobriety.

Step 11 explores how you become what you practice, and how heaven and hell show up now in your relationships, regrets, and reflection, not in some future judgment.

Underneath almost every excuse I made, there was a simple, raw fear of embarrassment that I did not know how to name.

Explore the real meaning of humility as grounded, human self-accuracy, not self-erasure, and how nervous system healing can transform life from the inside out.

Let’s talk about Karen. You know her. We all do. She’s the one losing it in the grocery store, demanding a manager over nothing, calling the cops on kids selling lemonade, spiraling over a mask policy. She’s reactive, entitled, and exhausting to be around.