The Humble Pie Blog

Step 12 isn’t about performance. It’s about stripping away validation-seeking and living so truthfully that your life becomes the message.

You’re not lazy...you’re tired. Step 11 reminds us that real self-love isn’t about pushing harder, but about listening when rest itself is wisdom.

Being responsible for my triggers isn’t about blame, it’s about trust. Step 10 reminds me that my reactions are mine to tend with compassion.

Rage-snacking wasn’t about hunger. It was about finding a voice when silence was forced. Step 9 is about no longer needing an audience for justice.

Forgiveness isn’t a prize for perfection. It’s a hand you extend to yourself when shame feels heavy and compassion feels far away.

They told me to turn the other cheek, so I did...the one that walks me out the door. Step 7 is about boundaries, not bruises.

Reaching for comfort isn’t weakness . It ’s the body’s way of surviving when connection feels unsafe. Addiction doesn’t arrive because...

Grieving the living is one of the hardest losses, because there are no casseroles, funerals, or condolences. It’s the quiet ache of a connection that’s gone but not buried, the grief of what could have been.

When children act out, it’s easy to label them as ‘disrespectful.’ But often, what looks like defiance is really hurt with no safe place to land. This reflection challenges the story that respect equals compliance and reminds us that kids deserve to be understood, not dismissed. A slice of humble pie: disrespect may just be pain in disguise.

Not every boundary comes with fireworks or a farewell speech. Sometimes the most honest act is a quiet exit, without justifying yourself to anyone.

For years I thought setting boundaries made me mean. But boundaries aren’t cruelty. They’re clarity. This is the story of the gun, the girl, and the lie that kept me silent.

A Google search, a quiet collapse, and the start of something new. Starting from scratch isn’t failure. It’s proof that you're free.