Trauma Recovery Coaching That Meets You Where You Are

Inside The Humble Pie Philosophy, one of the earliest shifts a person makes is learning how to tell the difference between the relationships that require performance and the relationships that allow presence. It sounds simple at first, almost like a soft skill or an intuition exercise, but for people who spent their childhoods managing the emotional climate around them, this distinction becomes revolutionary.

There are moments that brand themselves into your memory, not because of what was said, but because of what wasn’t. Because you showed up vulnerable, needing care, and someone sat across from you unmoved.

Many of us were told to “look for the helpers,” but what happens when no one ever came? This piece explores how growing up without emotional support shapes identity, self-blame, boundaries, and healing — and how adults can finally choose the helpers they never had.

There’s a particular question that doesn’t arrive as a whisper or a scream. It just… settles in. Familiar. Persistent. Am I the problem? It slips in when something ends. When someone pulls away. When you finally speak. When you set a boundary, you should’ve set ten years ago. When you stop performing a version of yourself that kept everyone else comfortable. Some people ask this once in a decade. Others, people like us, ask it as a kind of reflex, the way the body reaches for

Discover why true generosity is not a moral trait but a nervous system milestone. A trauma-informed essay on emotional scarcity, freeze response, healing, and how generosity begins in the nervous system

If you’re convincing, you’re not connecting. A trauma-informed look at overexplaining, curiosity, and why your truth doesn’t require translation for the right people.

Something happens. Maybe it’s a tone of voice. A look. A question that feels like an accusation. And before you can think, you’ve already reacted. You snap back. You leave the room. You go blank. You say “I’m sorry” before anyone even asks. And afterward, alone with yourself, you think: 'Why did I do that?' If you’ve ever asked yourself that question, especially in a moment you wish you could rewind or at least understand, this is for you. Because the answer isn’t in yo

Shame and guilt can function like an addiction, keeping us loyal, quiet, and small. A trauma-informed reflection on grief, conditioning, and emotional sobriety.

Step 11 explores how you become what you practice, and how heaven and hell show up now in your relationships, regrets, and reflection, not in some future judgment.

Step 4 explores how shadow work and projection shape relationships, family patterns, and parenting, and how owning your shadow stops it from quietly running your life.

Underneath almost every excuse I made, there was a simple, raw fear of embarrassment that I did not know how to name.

Explore the real meaning of humility as grounded, human self-accuracy, not self-erasure, and how nervous system healing can transform life from the inside out.

A reflection on why over-explaining becomes a survival strategy, and how responding instead of reacting brings clarity, grounding, and self-trust.

When we grow, we lose versions of ourselves we once relied on. This post reflects on the quiet grief that comes with becoming someone new—how growth is both liberation and loss, and why it deserves tenderness, not shame.

Many of us learned to be the strong one long before we knew what it was costing us. This post is a soft place to land for anyone who’s tired of holding everything together alone.

Some of us enter January already exhausted. Not because we “did too much.” But because our bodies and hearts have been carrying more than anyone could see.

For me, performing looked like earning community love just to stay part of the flock. It meant pretending I didn’t see what I saw, didn’t experience what I experienced, didn’t feel what I felt.