Jane Davidson, EdD · Educator & trauma-informed coach

When belonging costs you pieces of yourself.

Education and coaching for family betrayal, estrangement, smear campaigns, and the grief of disrupted trust and belonging. I help you recognize patterns, understand their effects, and make considered choices about how to respond and what comes next.

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With Jane Davidson, EdD · Online · Free consultation for first-time clients. Writing, workbooks, and The Cut offer other ways to begin.

A winding trail through high desert brush toward distant mountains at dusk

Choose where to begin

A way to work with what you’re noticing.

Use the self-guided workbook to explore one relationship at your own pace, or work with me in private coaching to examine your experience and consider your next steps.

One-to-one · Online

For family estrangement, grief others don’t recognize, and relationships where keeping the peace has meant setting your own needs aside. Together, we examine the pattern, take stock of your circumstances, and practice a response or decision you can use in daily life.

Jane Davidson, EdD · Nearly 20 years in the classroom · Trauma-informed educator and coach

  • Free 30-minute consultationFor first-time clients to discuss fit.
  • $90 single session60 minutes online.
  • $425 five-session packageOngoing work on patterns, boundaries, and self-trust across five 60-minute sessions.

Educational support. Coaching does not replace mental health care.

Self-guided reflection · $19

People count on you. But what happens when you need support, disagree, or say no? This workbook helps you examine the difference between being useful and being known.

51-page digital PDF · 58 fillable answer spaces · Type or print · One-time purchase

Tolerated or Welcomed workbook cover and two sample pages

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Prefer to start by reading? Get the free reflection guide. For ongoing lessons and live conversation, explore The Cut · $37/month.

01 / A place to begin

You may recognize something here.

Perhaps you over-explain to keep the peace. Certain relationships leave you depleted. You feel useful, but not really known. Hurt is followed by silence instead of repair, or belonging seems to depend on what you don’t say.

My work includes disrupted parent-child relationships, religious trauma and deconstruction, and experiences of harm or dismissal in healthcare and other institutions. We examine what happened, what it has changed, and what support and choices are available now.

02 / Learning & community

Stay with the question

The Cut

A short video can help you recognize a pattern. The Cut is where we slow down enough to understand it.

Through short lessons, live teaching, and guided conversation, we examine family and relationship patterns and build skills for responding to them. We practice checking assumptions, naming needs, and listening with room to be corrected.

We explore family roles, attachment, shame, grief, and care that goes both ways. Learning connects recognition with everyday choices, including how to communicate, respond to changed relationships, and consider what comes next.

$37/monthSeven days free to look around
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03 / Read & reflect

A place for the curious mind.

Essays and resources that connect everyday experiences with ideas you can examine and use. Start by naming a pattern, then consider what it means in your own circumstances.

Free reflection companion

What Counts as a Loss?

You can remember feeling alone without knowing what was missing. This short guide offers words for the care, connection, and support you needed, with four questions to explore privately.

Two pages · Fillable PDF · No sign-up required

Preview of the What Counts as a Loss reflection companion
The Humble Pie podcast with Jane Davidson, with a high desert landscape

The Humble Pie podcast · With Jane Davidson

Less fixing. More noticing.

Longer conversations about grief, belonging, and the relationship patterns we learned to accept. Curious, sometimes uncomfortable, occasionally irreverent. A little more room than a short video allows.

04 / One to one

A conversation with room to think.

Bring one relationship, question, or decision. We’ll examine what you’re noticing, clarify what is within your influence, and work toward a practical next step.

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05 / About Jane

Portrait of Jane Davidson

Hello, I’m Jane.

Dr. Jane A. Davidson, EdD, CTRC

I’m an educator and trauma-informed coach, and the founder of The Humble Pie. I help people recognize patterns of betrayal, scapegoating, exclusion, and disrupted trust within families, religious communities, and institutions. Together, we examine their effects, make room for grief, and connect understanding with practical choices.

My doctorate in education and nearly 20 years in the classroom shape how I work: making complex ideas understandable, using everyday examples, and helping people apply what they learn. We examine how family roles, shame, silence, and assumptions shape belonging and our understanding of ourselves.

My writing draws on lived experience with loss and beginning again. I turn those experiences into questions and teaching material, while leaving room for your experience to differ from mine.

Recognition is where we begin. A rupture in trust, belonging, or the life you expected can leave you asking what still holds. We look at what has changed, what you have lost, what remains, and what choices are available. Grief can accompany any part of that process.

Curiosity guides the work. We practice acknowledging our own experience and reflecting what we hear from someone else, with room for correction. We distinguish observations from assumptions and examine responsibility without making one person responsible for another’s behavior.

Accepting present circumstances can give us information to act on while we still want change. Beginning again may involve a clearer request, a boundary, or a small experiment. There is no fixed sequence or deadline for feeling ready.

The Humble Pie began with actual pies. Starting from scratch now means bringing what you’ve learned into the life you are building. Expect warmth, honest questions, and a little irreverent humor. Being human is serious enough.

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Letters from Jane

Stay with the question.

Letters connecting grief, belonging, and relationship patterns with questions you can use in your own life. Receive three welcome emails, then a weekly reflection, with occasional invitations to workbooks, coaching, and The Cut.