Resources / Read & reflect

Workbooks & free resources.

Educational resources from Jane Davidson, EdD, to help you recognize relationship patterns, examine your own circumstances, and consider how the ideas apply in daily life. Explore at your own pace.

Guided reflection workbook

Tolerated or Welcomed?

You’re included. People count on you. Yet you still wonder how much room there is for you.

Explore conditional belonging, usefulness, and being known with research-informed explanations and thoughtful prompts. Keep one relationship or group in mind as you notice what happens when you need support, disagree, or say no.

51 pages · 58 fillable answer spaces · Type or print

$19 One-time purchase · Digital PDF

Checkout and download delivery through Payhip. Download the PDF and open it in a reader that supports forms, or print and write by hand. No physical product will be shipped.

Tolerated or Welcomed workbook cover and two sample pages: Choose One Relationship to Observe and What Happens When You Say No
The cover and two actual workbook pages. Enlarge the sample pages ↗

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Free reflection companion

What Counts as a Loss?

You can remember feeling alone without knowing what was missing.

Some losses concern what did not arrive: someone asking, noticing, encouraging, or helping you make sense of a difficult day. This brief guide offers language for what was missing and four questions to explore privately.

Two pages · Fillable PDF · No sign-up required

Type into the shaded spaces in a PDF reader, or print it and write by hand. Skip any question or return to it later.

First page of the What Counts as a Loss reflection companion
A look inside the free companion.

Stay with what catches your attention.

Want help applying what you noticed? In private coaching, we examine the pattern in your circumstances and work on a decision, boundary, or conversation. Begin with a free 30-minute consultation to discuss fit, or explore The Cut for ongoing lessons and guided conversation.

These resources offer education and reflection. They do not replace mental health care.

Letters from Jane

Stay with the question.

Letters connecting grief, belonging, and relationship patterns with questions you can use in your own life. Receive three welcome emails, then a weekly reflection, with occasional invitations to workbooks, coaching, and The Cut.